Let's Talk: Respect from irritating people

Have you felt that most of the time, when some people (or even friends) are acting like a douche to you or mistreating you or told you something really insensitive? How about not gaining the respect that you coherently deserved? These are the things that could really piss most people off. I mean who am I kidding?! How would you react when you are talking to someone and that someone is just in a daze and then when you are finished, (s)he asked "Huh? What again?"  I believe that some of us hates repeating ourselves. So, when this happens, usually some people drop the subject or paused for a bit to stay calm and then repeat. If this happens everyday, I rather spend time alone.

That example was just a tame one. It is nothing to compare with a person not treating you right. Okay, I have an example, I'm just gonna list out one.

So, first example is a self-centered guy and he is older than me by 2 years. He is a perverted guy who sulks in to negativity and thinks nobody loves him. Of course, I just realized that after a year or two! He thinks that I am the "only one" who could make him happy. But let's say after some time, he asked to me do such absurd and perverted actions for him (I did not do btw) or making our conversation from normal to erotic (in a way that is freaking uncomfortable) Then, night after night, taking my 3 hours away by taking his own sweet time telling me stuff about him that I don't care about. Then, if I am talking about some stuff that REALLY matters, he will immediately change the subject -really irritating. It went on for a few months and you must be wondering as you reading this, "Well, why don't you tell him to stop?" Well, here's the thing, I feel like it's rude to do so. I believe that I could hurt him (or his feelings). This is one of the symptoms of being "too nice". You are afraid to hurt their feelings even all the bullshit they make you go through.

BUT

If  you are really irritated by a guy or a girl that makes you uncomfortable, don't stay silent. Just speak up because if you are not gonna say anything, they will take it that you are comfortable with it and, trust me, it's gonna get worse.

Don't be afraid of speaking out your thoughts. It's a matter of respect as well. If they make you uncomfortable, it is equivalent of disrespect -no matter how you look at it.

And if your feelings are hurt, don't take revenge immediately 'cause it's not gonna work. It will only promote something worse (it depends on your situation), instead, just talk it out. If (s)he is not taking it seriously just give up on the friendship since (s)he is not gonna give you respect.

MOST OF ALL

If you wanna be respected, you give yourself respect first. Don't let people treat you like a door mat. Don't let people affect you with their insults and bullshits. 'Cause that means that you respect their opinion more than you.

If they see you that you have limits to everything or you are intolerant in some things, they would definitely acknowledge that and they would give you respect.

Okay, that's it for now. I hoped that helps and I will be back for more posts!

Shine brightly, diamonds!

Let's Make! | Oatmeal Cookies | Easy!!!

Ingredients:
3/4 stick of butter
1 1/2 cup of white sugar
2 eggs
1 tbsp vanilla powder
2 cups + 4 tbsp of all-purpose flour
200 g Chocolate Chips (optional)
3 cups of oatmeal

Step 1
Mix butter and sugar until thoroughly mixed.

Step 2
Add eggs, vanilla, and flour then mix.

Step 3
Add the oatmeal and chocolate chips. (You may add the chocolate chips after molding them)

Step 4
Take a tablespoon and take a scoop of dough. You may use flour to powder your hands to avoid the dough sticking on your hands. Roll it into a ball, put it on the tray and press with 2 fingers. Make sure you pressed it to your desired thickness.

Step 5
Bake at 175 degree Celsius until cookies are light brown.

Step 6
Take the tray out of the oven and let the cookies cool.

Step 7
Enjoy the cookies~

Mr. Bugiardo (Friendship)

The people mentioned are merely characters in the story.

We do sometimes wonder what would it be like if we were great, popular, rich, to have whatever you name it, to have achieved something impressive. However, is it really worth it to lie to people just to impress them? 

Well, let me introduce two people: Andrew and Stacey. They became best friends in their sophomore year but after a few months, Stacey feels quite pissed off about it. 

"Why do you keep lying about yourself?" Stacey practically yelled. "What's with the story about you are a bartender and earns a $2700 monthly? You're a senior and you seem to have all the time in the world! I have always texted you and you replied me with no hustle! Additionally, you are under-aged."

"I'm telling the truth." It was always his answer. Now, maybe he got fed up, hence replying, "You are an asshole! You don't believe what I say!" and he just left.

Few days have passed, Andrew and Stacey haven't talked at all. Usually, they eat lunch together. Now, they are in their own circle. Stacey never wanted to lose a friend, it was a painful feeling. For all the months that they were best friends, she dusted every lie under the carpet. All the lies have replaying in her head; I have 19 cats, I have a nanosuit at home, I just received the latest video console, a company asked me to try out their invention. She had been to his home -thanks to his mother- and she saw NOTHING of what he claimed was true. However, she just dusted it under the carpet, putting the happiness of the friendship on top priority. She still hears his hearty laugh and proud voice claiming he "finished a whole game in 2 days". How absurd is that? It was the middle of the term, everyone is probably busy with studying for the exams. She tapped her fingers rhythmically on the table, thinking whether to continue being friends with him or not. But his ego is just so big! What can she do? Her heart was killing her, a bad friendship leads her to feel guilty. She wants him to be honest as well. That's why she told him everything; bad times, good times, especially failures.

So the next day, she confronted Andrew. "You know.. You didn't need to be so great to have friends. I don't even freaking care whether you are an achiever or not, a ladies' man or not, rich or not. We just need to be friends."

"Yeah." He replied simply. "You think about what you did wrong."

That came like a knife in her heart. But she just throw it away, never minding what he had just said. She didn't want to be under bad terms. So after a week, there are more events that had occurred between them. Whenever Andrew plans to meet with Stacey, she obliged and waited for him for hours or woke up early just to meet him but he never showed up. Then, day by day, boasting absurdity through text messages and making it seems like Stacey was an inferior.

 In the end, she is still friends with Andrew. Dusting everything under the carpet. Putting up with his lies everyday.

Was that really what she deserves?

New Beginning

Hey! It has been a long time since I have updated. It's just that the schedule I had in school for the past months were really hectic (ACTUALLY ALL YEAR). I was quite envious to hear that some countries' education system are relaxed. *sad face*

Well, I'm 3rd year in high school now and I'm really under great pressure from school since next year is my GCE O' levels (A compulsory exam here) It's like your whole future depends on this exam! (Not really, I mean you could still succeed in life whether you are smart or not. It's basically just being wise -there's a difference!)

SO, I'm going to try to write as much as often, there were quite a lot of happenings lately; troubled, thrilling, depressing, and joyful times... BUT HEY! I may share some stories about relationships (family, friends or whatever), studies, life. They may be from my experience or from others.

Probably, I'm gonna write one story a week??? 

Eh, never mind that. I will solemnly swear to post a story. (SEQUELS ARE POSSIBLE)