Let's Talk: Respect from irritating people

Have you felt that most of the time, when some people (or even friends) are acting like a douche to you or mistreating you or told you something really insensitive? How about not gaining the respect that you coherently deserved? These are the things that could really piss most people off. I mean who am I kidding?! How would you react when you are talking to someone and that someone is just in a daze and then when you are finished, (s)he asked "Huh? What again?"  I believe that some of us hates repeating ourselves. So, when this happens, usually some people drop the subject or paused for a bit to stay calm and then repeat. If this happens everyday, I rather spend time alone.

That example was just a tame one. It is nothing to compare with a person not treating you right. Okay, I have an example, I'm just gonna list out one.

So, first example is a self-centered guy and he is older than me by 2 years. He is a perverted guy who sulks in to negativity and thinks nobody loves him. Of course, I just realized that after a year or two! He thinks that I am the "only one" who could make him happy. But let's say after some time, he asked to me do such absurd and perverted actions for him (I did not do btw) or making our conversation from normal to erotic (in a way that is freaking uncomfortable) Then, night after night, taking my 3 hours away by taking his own sweet time telling me stuff about him that I don't care about. Then, if I am talking about some stuff that REALLY matters, he will immediately change the subject -really irritating. It went on for a few months and you must be wondering as you reading this, "Well, why don't you tell him to stop?" Well, here's the thing, I feel like it's rude to do so. I believe that I could hurt him (or his feelings). This is one of the symptoms of being "too nice". You are afraid to hurt their feelings even all the bullshit they make you go through.

BUT

If  you are really irritated by a guy or a girl that makes you uncomfortable, don't stay silent. Just speak up because if you are not gonna say anything, they will take it that you are comfortable with it and, trust me, it's gonna get worse.

Don't be afraid of speaking out your thoughts. It's a matter of respect as well. If they make you uncomfortable, it is equivalent of disrespect -no matter how you look at it.

And if your feelings are hurt, don't take revenge immediately 'cause it's not gonna work. It will only promote something worse (it depends on your situation), instead, just talk it out. If (s)he is not taking it seriously just give up on the friendship since (s)he is not gonna give you respect.

MOST OF ALL

If you wanna be respected, you give yourself respect first. Don't let people treat you like a door mat. Don't let people affect you with their insults and bullshits. 'Cause that means that you respect their opinion more than you.

If they see you that you have limits to everything or you are intolerant in some things, they would definitely acknowledge that and they would give you respect.

Okay, that's it for now. I hoped that helps and I will be back for more posts!

Shine brightly, diamonds!

Let's Make! | Oatmeal Cookies | Easy!!!

Ingredients:
3/4 stick of butter
1 1/2 cup of white sugar
2 eggs
1 tbsp vanilla powder
2 cups + 4 tbsp of all-purpose flour
200 g Chocolate Chips (optional)
3 cups of oatmeal

Step 1
Mix butter and sugar until thoroughly mixed.

Step 2
Add eggs, vanilla, and flour then mix.

Step 3
Add the oatmeal and chocolate chips. (You may add the chocolate chips after molding them)

Step 4
Take a tablespoon and take a scoop of dough. You may use flour to powder your hands to avoid the dough sticking on your hands. Roll it into a ball, put it on the tray and press with 2 fingers. Make sure you pressed it to your desired thickness.

Step 5
Bake at 175 degree Celsius until cookies are light brown.

Step 6
Take the tray out of the oven and let the cookies cool.

Step 7
Enjoy the cookies~

Mr. Bugiardo (Friendship)

The people mentioned are merely characters in the story.

We do sometimes wonder what would it be like if we were great, popular, rich, to have whatever you name it, to have achieved something impressive. However, is it really worth it to lie to people just to impress them? 

Well, let me introduce two people: Andrew and Stacey. They became best friends in their sophomore year but after a few months, Stacey feels quite pissed off about it. 

"Why do you keep lying about yourself?" Stacey practically yelled. "What's with the story about you are a bartender and earns a $2700 monthly? You're a senior and you seem to have all the time in the world! I have always texted you and you replied me with no hustle! Additionally, you are under-aged."

"I'm telling the truth." It was always his answer. Now, maybe he got fed up, hence replying, "You are an asshole! You don't believe what I say!" and he just left.

Few days have passed, Andrew and Stacey haven't talked at all. Usually, they eat lunch together. Now, they are in their own circle. Stacey never wanted to lose a friend, it was a painful feeling. For all the months that they were best friends, she dusted every lie under the carpet. All the lies have replaying in her head; I have 19 cats, I have a nanosuit at home, I just received the latest video console, a company asked me to try out their invention. She had been to his home -thanks to his mother- and she saw NOTHING of what he claimed was true. However, she just dusted it under the carpet, putting the happiness of the friendship on top priority. She still hears his hearty laugh and proud voice claiming he "finished a whole game in 2 days". How absurd is that? It was the middle of the term, everyone is probably busy with studying for the exams. She tapped her fingers rhythmically on the table, thinking whether to continue being friends with him or not. But his ego is just so big! What can she do? Her heart was killing her, a bad friendship leads her to feel guilty. She wants him to be honest as well. That's why she told him everything; bad times, good times, especially failures.

So the next day, she confronted Andrew. "You know.. You didn't need to be so great to have friends. I don't even freaking care whether you are an achiever or not, a ladies' man or not, rich or not. We just need to be friends."

"Yeah." He replied simply. "You think about what you did wrong."

That came like a knife in her heart. But she just throw it away, never minding what he had just said. She didn't want to be under bad terms. So after a week, there are more events that had occurred between them. Whenever Andrew plans to meet with Stacey, she obliged and waited for him for hours or woke up early just to meet him but he never showed up. Then, day by day, boasting absurdity through text messages and making it seems like Stacey was an inferior.

 In the end, she is still friends with Andrew. Dusting everything under the carpet. Putting up with his lies everyday.

Was that really what she deserves?

New Beginning

Hey! It has been a long time since I have updated. It's just that the schedule I had in school for the past months were really hectic (ACTUALLY ALL YEAR). I was quite envious to hear that some countries' education system are relaxed. *sad face*

Well, I'm 3rd year in high school now and I'm really under great pressure from school since next year is my GCE O' levels (A compulsory exam here) It's like your whole future depends on this exam! (Not really, I mean you could still succeed in life whether you are smart or not. It's basically just being wise -there's a difference!)

SO, I'm going to try to write as much as often, there were quite a lot of happenings lately; troubled, thrilling, depressing, and joyful times... BUT HEY! I may share some stories about relationships (family, friends or whatever), studies, life. They may be from my experience or from others.

Probably, I'm gonna write one story a week??? 

Eh, never mind that. I will solemnly swear to post a story. (SEQUELS ARE POSSIBLE)

Education & International Friendship part 5

Okay! The last part of my "Education & International Friendship" posts and after this gonna continue my own blogging stuff. So last part... It has been a question in my head for quite a long time. If some of you thought of it as well, then alright! I'll share my opinions to you~

"What does international friendship does to open education to women."

^-^ Well, this is what I have in mind; let's take a look at Greek scholars. Most of them are men but there are women as well. However, they are not widely recognize. For example: Hypatia, a Greek philosopher that studied in Alexandria (it's in Egypt) Wikipedia says -not me- that she is the first well-documented woman in Mathematics.

Her greatness is not the importance of this note. Take note that she's Greek yet studies in a foreign land. And I believe the bridge for her to study in a foreign place is because of the acceptance of both countries and their understanding of each other.

So basically, this is because most countries before don't allow women to join schools and study -like what was said in part 3. That's why some women immigrated to another country for the sake of education.

"Education is freedom and power." -quoted from Assassin's Creed: The Secret Crusade (I read this kind of stuff XD)

Which is true. Education can lead us "to the truth that sets us free", eventually.

So another thing is the influence of other countries. For example: When country A hears about another country B getting more successful when education was open for women, country A will surely establish it as well, then spreads the system all over the world like a flu. Well, not really like a flu. 0.0 But you get the meaning anyway.

So yeah, I may explain it weirdly -this is because I'm just bad at explaining about things like this. (Honestly, my English Language is barely a pass XD but hey, grades can't tell who I am. So no biggie. Just try to understand at least what I am trying to say ^^")

Education & International Friendship Part 4

The Education Is Unlimited by Rachel Ow Yong Zi Wei

Now in the 21st century, education is worldwide. There is no any difference between men and women. There are also different types of education, example, children and youth still attending school, like for religion and academic. As we know, education are not only about academics but also skills and morals. Education is the main reason why we are a better living society. .

In the past, women did not receive any education at all. They were not allowed to come out were just imprisoned in their own homes and domestic works were their only education. Now in the present, women equal to men. They help each other in every sphere. So, education should be unlimited to both genders. However, some men still discriminates women and known them as worthless or low-valued. Sexism is anywhere; be it at work, school, neighborhoods or even in public places. Some see women as an object and once they were done with, they'll just abandon her. Most men think that women only exist to take care of the family, handle the household chores an cook. They think only that the life of a woman is all about getting married, having children, and being bombarded with unimportant details of domesticity. But what some people cannot comprehend is that education is limitless. Education is not just academic means like in our school. But skills and morals that we all need to learn such as houseworks and how to handle situations. Imagine this: What if women were uneducated, what would the children are to become?

"In day to day life, the real problems are faced first by women and then the same problems are conveyed to men for solution. If the women are educated, they can solve all the problems of their houses. It is said that when ever any men get education it is only useful for him but when ever any women get education it is useful for whole family. An educated woman gives an educated family and an educated family can makes society better. We can not imagine a god society without the education of women. If a woman will not get education how will she manage whole family?"

As that being said, education is important to women. Now, it opens doors to not only for men, women around the world gets educated too. Even though we know that minority will still think that education is unimportant for women, but in this society, without education, we may not be able to earn a living. But most family expenses cannot be paid by a single salary.

'Only With the help of education women can know their rights . Women belong to a weaker section of the society because she suffers from many handicaps due to rigid, outdated social customs and religious practices. But an educated woman cannot be exploited easily. She is aware of her rights and will go any length to defend them. Women are humans too, they have their own dignity and pride.

Education & International Friendship Part 3

So this is very recent. This is my class outing video. It just shows what did we do during our time at the Botanical Gardens. And that's my teacher over there *points above* My class compromise of mostly Chinese. But there are a few Indians, Malays and Pilipinos (Me and 2 more people) When I was resting in the shade I was happy -at least- that I see a class united and enjoying each other's presence. It was so unlike last year. There were a lot of in fightings because of differences and competitiveness of each  individual. 

Maybe they have set aside the differences and FINALLY realized that it doesn't make anything better? It was our 3rd year anyway. And we won't get to hang out with each other because of studies and other responsibilities. Okay, enjoy the video~ (if you haven't watched it yet o,o)

Education & International Friendship Part 2

Our last year's GG camp. This is the part where we set for a campfire, give gifts and basically, do activities together. I didn't really get to go to last year's camp but I did go to a sisterhood camp where the Netball club, Malay Dance club and us, GG, were together in one camp. Since we were all women, I kinda felt more comfortable with the camp and it was way easier for me to talk to them. I'm not much of a speaker or a good person to have conversation with but everytime I talk to other girls (we're all in different races) I get to learn more about other's religion, culture or even the way they behave or what's acceptable or what's not. That's a benefit for me, really. At least I could have less haters at school XD But seriously, I made a few good friends and a lot of nice acquaintances from that camp and it made an impact on my life. For example; looking at the world differently.

Education & International Friendship Part 1

2014 Ladies in the House~ My comeback will be featuring my strong bonds in Girl Guides (basically a club/organization I am in) Well, this is one of the best things that I really liked about my school. Other than individual competitions and other contests. Since it's multi-racial here, I get to really know many people from different races. And below is one of my great friends named Rachel. She's a "weirdo" in her perspective - But hey! Her creativity level and imagination is really high. Which I may need because I'm too much of a realist and a melancholic person (I'm sooooo honest.)

P.S.

I'm not sure where to look at XD-->

Then here we are planning about our CCA display~! Which is next week on the 9th >.< I'm excited to get more girls to join us in this sisterhood! We're actually brainstorming a rap here (Rachel: Yoyoyoyo) She's currently beside me now *insert hysterical laugh here* As some people would notice, Asians are getting "westernized ", trend by trend, and fashion by fashion. No more traditional they say.